Dear unknown friend,
How is life treating you?
Life is a game. I don't mean that all the suffering doesn't matter. It does.
What I mean is that we are like players sitting at a table over a board game. There are rules.
However, we have forgotten that we are playing. We believe we are these little characters interacting with other little characters on this board we call world. The more we win the more we enjoy the game. The more we lose the closer to remembering who we really are we become.
Sometimes, in order to solve a problem, we need to disengage and remember...
On the board,, when we suffer we react with coping mechanisms. We take refuge in our heads, we overthink, we drink, we eat, we find all kinds of ways to relieve temporarily the suffering, we blame, we take it onto others...
But if we are able to calm down in the middle of our own suffering, even for a short moment... we may be able to access a different "state of consciousness", a level where we know how to change the course of events...
There is a little story which is about precisely this:
An elephant is crossing a river. Just in the middle of the river he loses an eye. The eye falls at the bottom of the river. The elephant panics, shouts and stamps around. "My eye! Where is my eye! I can't see my eye!" The water gets muddy. All the animals gathered on the banks shout at the elephant:
"Calm down! Calm down!"
But the elephant keeps being like:
"My eye! My eye! I can't see my eye!"
Eventually, he gets tired, so tired that he hears the animals and calms down. He stops moving. The water slowly clears up. With his other eye the elephant sees his eye laying between two rocks at the bottom of the river. He picks it up, put it back into place, and move away....
That's where we are my dear friend. We are players who have forgotten we are playing a game, we are in pain and we keep troubling the waters because of our pains, and we have even forgotten the rule that says that when we calm down, we can save ourselves.
See you in the world of dreams!