When we communicate there are two opposite/complementary attitudes we can adopt:
We can focus on the message, or on the people. Ideally we should be able to focus on both at the same time, which is blatant multitasking, and requires a bit of training, even for women.
When we focus on the message exclusively, we want the receiving end to get it right. We give as many details, explanations and precision as necessary to dispel any possible ambiguity. We want them to know just what we mean.
If we are a project manager, a teacher, a passionate activist or someone telling their lawyer how badly the person we are now divorcing has been, we are likely to adopt spontaneously this attitude. We may forget that human beings can get tired, distracted or bored.
The opposite (and complementary) attitude is to focus on the people. We ask ourselves questions such as:
- What will work with them?
- What will trigger their interest, spark their enthusiasm? What will get them excited?
- What do they like, what do they love, what do they need?
- What do they expect?
...and we adjust our message accordingly...
If we are entertainers, marketers or one of those ethically flexible politicians, we might well go that way... If we want to be accepted in a group or create new connections, it is the right thing to do.
Efficient communication is a balanced attitude. It is important to know how to reach to people, and to be faithful to ourselves and our message at the same time.
In Organic Speaking sessions, I encourage you to get detached from the message and experiment with the relationship side of speaking to an audience, because that's what most of us need to improve.
However, the message is not to be binned altogether!
We just need to remember that even if we were able to say all there is to say about a particular topic, people wouldn't remember everything.
We, people, need motivation more than information.
We should remember this when we speak!
I would love to give you a bit of non compulsory homework, for the future sessions (see updates below)
Prepare a one or two minutes speech (that is between 100 and 250 words) on a topic such as:
- Health and lifestyle
- How to speak to children
- Be the change you want to see in the world
- Life is diversity
..... or whatever you may think of. Make a simple and clear point (Be as specific as possible) and perform your speech with the intention of keeping your audience engaged, interested and excited...
This homework is just a suggestion for those who want to progress quicker and enjoy more!
Two sessions are scheduled:
This Sunday the 25th of September at 7pm: High Energy Levels (Willesden Green, NW2)
Next Sunday the 2nd of October at 7pm: Happy go Lucky. (Willesden Green, NW2)
There are always a few free for first timer tickets to grab. Here are the links:
High Energy Levels Happy go Lucky
And a last thing: My YouTube Channel. I record stories and there is a playlist with public speaking tips.
I would be happy if you subscribed to it!
That's all for today. Thanks for being here!